My half-sister (same mom, different dads) Carrie-Anne did the ancestry.com DNA test about two years ago and asked me to do one as well. I put it off for so long because part of me had concerns about what the test may reveal. I was raised in a ‘dysfunctional’ family and part of my survival and ability to be resilient in the face of so much trauma depended somewhat on the fantasy scenario I created in my mind. I was born to a single teenage mom and was, by her accounts, the ugliest baby she had ever seen. I apparently looked like 'a drowned rat with no hair'. My younger two siblings were beautiful fat babies with hair and cherub-like features. My mom told me that while pregnant, she thought I was a boy and selected the name Steven Scott after her two younger half-brothers Steve and Scott. She did not have a name picked out for a skinny rat-looking girl, so she told the nurse to name me. At least that is what she told me about why my name is Kimberley Sue.
I had plenty of time to fantasize about my ‘real parents’ as I hand-washed the dishes or did other chores. In my fantasy, the kind nurses at the hospital saw a skinny rat-baby born to a wonderful married couple, and a fat cherub-like baby born to a poor single mom and swapped babies because the nice-looking baby should go to the wonderful couple. This fantasy solidified in my mind as plausible when the saga of two girls switched at birth played out in the media back in 1986. I had hopes of someone coming to me proclaiming that I am their daughter and taking me out of the situation, which never happened. I moved out early and worked my way through High School. Eventually, I moved away and essentially, never looked back.
Fast-forward to 2019, when I do the Ancestry.com DNA test and find out I have a 1st cousin who shares none of the family on my maternal side, nor on the supposed paternal side. After some communications, we discovered my paternal DNA contributor to be one of her uncles. A man whom she described as happy, positive, and fun-loving. I was intrigued because those are the qualities in myself which I wondered how I could have come from the other two parents I had. Currently, we are in contact through Facebook messenger and will do another paternity test to confirm things. If this next test confirms the first test, I have a half-brother and half-sister. I also have 3 nephews and a niece!! Patience has never been one of my strong suits, and I am relying heavily on patience, currently. I will keep you all up to date on how things turn out.